Well, this should be interesting, and let’s hope we end up at a place that makes sense by the end. I never try to write an article during the day, as my thoughts and perspectives have been impacted by the daily struggles of life. I have been up for a bit and am trying to clear the thoughts from the day before, but they are still with me. The last few weeks have been more challenging than most, but that’s to be expected to happen from time to time.
I have never been one to avoid difficult situations or circumstances, as that is just part of the life that I have agreed to participate in. So, when I encounter problems with my family, friends, or in a professional setting that I am expected to solve, that is fair. I have committed to many different things over the years and enjoy being able to give back. I volunteer my time in many different enterprises and am happy to be able to do so, though sometimes finding the time is very difficult.
I think that most people are genuinely appreciative of what is done for them, but others don’t know how to be. Of course, in the moment, they always show their gratitude and say thank you. However, as soon as something happens that they can critique about anyone, including the one who helped them, they will. I don’t believe it’s intentional, or maybe I just give these people more credit than they deserve.
“Those who can, do. Those who can’t, criticize.”
Our outdoor facilities have not been getting a great deal of use this year, as it seems to rain every day. I guess that is why the grass looks so nice throughout the complex, though. That is always how life goes: when you lose one thing, you gain another. Though I would prefer some nice weather, as I would like to spend some time on the water this year.
The pool entertainment has been scheduled for the season and has been posted at the Clubhouse, on Facebook, and will be in this month’s Newsletter. Please come down and enjoy some great music and food. The music is complimentary and the food is sold at a very reasonable price.
We have purchased a line striper and will be re-striping all of the roads in the next month or two. This will be a project that we will complete annually moving forward to ensure that all of the road markings are visible to everyone. Unfortunately, with all of the salt that we had to put down this past winter, the markings faded faster than expected. Please be cognizant of the staff when they are out striping and follow all posted signs. If your actions endanger any employee or contractor out working, immediate action will be taken against you.
Enclosed in the Newsletter are the updated house rules, and all of them will be enforced. Please know that these rules were updated for the protection of yourself, family, and guests. The biggest change that everyone will notice is the new fine structure that is being implemented. Please take the time to read through the house rules and familiarize yourself with all of them. These rules are very easy to follow, and I truly hope that nobody violates any of them. However, if you do, then be prepared to face the consequences. I thank all of you in advance for your cooperation.
Now, why would somebody that you have gone out of your way to help go out of their way to correct you or cause you harm? I don’t know if I have the answer to that question, but my suspicion is that they can’t help themselves. Throughout their lives, they have been corrected, mistreated, and made to feel inferior. So, when something arises that they believe their action will get them support, they have to seize the opportunity. The issue is that when you do this, regardless of whether the person is a friend or foe, you end up having no true friends.
Now, of course, it is never the fault of the person who takes these actions; it’s always everyone else, or so they think. I was one of these people a long time ago and thought it was my role to correct everyone. The issue is that you aren’t actually fixing anything. What you’re doing is trying to enforce your ideologies and perspectives on people who don’t agree with you. We all believe that our way of doing things is right; that’s why we do it. I try and see things from the perspectives of others, and when I feel strongly that my view on something is correct, I respectfully discuss the facts, not my opinions.
I have learned not to try and change people in my life. Although the actions of these people are hurtful and uncalled for, it’s not my role to correct them. I simply must distance myself from them and realize that my efforts and energy are better spent on people who want to grow and be better. They say misery loves company, so let them find someone else who wants to correct everyone else, while avoiding their reflection.
Sometimes the best thing is to walk away from these people, and although you may lose others because of it, your mental well-being will be better for it. I have walked away from many things over the years and will continue to do so whenever it is required. If you live in the desert and constantly complain that it’s hot and you want cooler weather, how long do you stay before deciding to move? People believe that walking away from something is allowing others to win. The reality is that walking away from something that is preventing your growth is the greatest win you will ever achieve in your life.
Happy Independence Day!
Craig Pessin- HOA Administrator
There are two types of people in life. People who take action and make things happen, and people who make excuses. You get to decide which one you want to be, so choose wisely.
